Wednesday, October 1, 2008

On the Verge of Divorce

Watch the powerful court scene out of the classic divorce drama "Kramer v. Kramer" shown above.

What do you notice? Two people who’d once been very much in love and very much committed to building a life together now sitting in a courtroom, in the ashes of their relationship, battling over the greatest gift they’d ever been given: their son.

How did they get here? What takes two people from love, respect, and passion to anger, disrespect, and apathy? Could anything have been done along the way to prevent this from ever even being a consideration?

A wise person once told me, “The key to a happy marriage is growing together and not growing apart.” With a 60% divorce rate, somehow, we, in this country, are not getting what that means. So how do you stay in a marriage when you feel disrespected, unloved, mistreated, trapped, hurt, and constantly filled with a sense of desperation to leave? What do you do when you live with someone who does nothing but criticize or complain? How do you move forward in a relationship when you’re growing and the other person isn’t? When do you say, “Enough is enough” and how do you walk away from something you promised you’d never leave?

The truth is if two people enter a marriage choosing themselves, honoring themselves, loving themselves, these same two people have the ability to fully and completely choose each other WITHOUT feeling like they are losing or sacrificing ANYTHING. It is when two people come together with the intention to “complete each other”, to fill in the gaps, to be someone they are not so the other person is happy that we wind up with a situation where people end up sacrificing themselves for the other person only to discover that no matter how much they give in or give up, it’s never enough.

You see, we like to win, men and women both and when one partner feels like no matter what they do, it’s never enough, there’s no winning and hence the relationship begins to die. How do you stop the process once it starts?

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